Happy and fulfilled? Are you feeling that being happy and fulfilled is a far away thing for you? Are you looking to be happy and fulfilled? Most of us are looking for a happy and fulfilling life. While many are searching for happiness and fulfillment, they didn’t feel that way. That’s why they are searching and searching.
I have 10 ways to get myself happy and fulfilled. You may have heard some or even most of them. The difference is I want to make it fun rather than serious. I wish that you can achieve a happy and fulfilling life in a fun manner. It’s easier to achieve something through fun. And to be happy, we got to have fun as well.
1. Having A Purpose
Live your life on purpose is to live your live with fulfillment. All legendary individual live their life with purpose. Some have big purpose like Ghandi, Mother Theresa. Others have not so huge ones like wanting a harmonious family. Nevertheless, a purpose is a purpose. Big or small, it is going to drive you forward.
With your purpose, you will look forward to living alive. Having a purpose provides you with energy and positivity in life. You’ll move faster, walk faster and act faster because there are so much to accomplish. Happiness and fulfillment tends to follow right behind your purpose.
Have you heard of some ex-high level bankers who suddenly quit their job and went on to do social work like saving animals, trees, children etc? Though taking a huge cut in paycheck, they truly experience happiness. These people found new purpose in life, they went on to live that purpose.
Many thought that purpose must be huge and serious. Absolutely not! It can be fun and creative. My purpose in life is to have fun. So I’m always looking for fun ways to run a business, help others or inspire people. Fun drives me to do extraordinary things. When I’m having fun, I actually attract more opportunities and miracles.
Go ahead to generate creative purposes for yourself. Maybe purposes like being an outrageous dancer, a mad scientist, bringing laughter to fellow workers, most expressive singer, most adventurous explorer etc. Purposes should support you in bringing out your true self so you can really live your life.
2. Refrain From Comparing
Comparing leads to darkness. Comparing is the main culprit to a unhappy life. When you compare, you’ll tend to see the grass in greener on the other side.
That girl is more caring than you. My elder sister is much smarter than me. Your pay is higher. He’s better looking. She achieve so much more than me. Comparing gets you to think that you are not good enough. How can you lead a happy and fulfilling life when you are always thinking that you are not good enough?
On the other hand, some people likes to compare to the weaker group. They tends to feels they are smarter, faster and better than most people in the world. They put people down by bringing themselves up.
Comparing makes no sense at all as all of us have our own pace. Some arrive faster, some arrive slower. Some lead a team of 200, some lead only themselves. Whichever it is, everything is perfect.
Instead of comparing, practice acceptance. Accept who you are. There is no good or bad, strength or weakness, you are just the way you are. You are what the Universe makes you to be. You are perfect in every way.
3. Chasing After False Perception
One major reason that causes unhappiness is the never-ending chasing after a false sense of achievements. Some go after branded goods, some go after man-made titles, some go after the number of opposite sex he/she slept with.
You will eventually realize that this kind of chasing doesn’t add any fulfillment or happiness to your life. It may provide you with a temporary sense of achievement, but soon after that feeling will be gone, and you have to go for the next big thing. It creates an endless chasing after the next branded good.
How about giving up the chase? Detach from all these things liberates you as a human being. Detach from the false sense of happiness brings you true happiness in life.
4. Surround Yourself With Positive Friends
Like the saying, you are who you hang around with. Hanging around with happy and positive friends keep you happy and positive. And hanging around with unhappy friends will influence you to be too.
Positive friends have a way to pull you out of unhappiness. Positive friends tends to support you when you are down. They will show you the possibilities of overcoming challenges. They will show you the possibilities of being happy.
Ensure that you are around happy people most of the time. I especially like what the author of The Power of Intention, Wayne Dyer’s way of answering a call. “I want to be happy, and if your call is not about that, you called the wrong number.”
5. Read Books
Self-help books, personal development books, biography books, business and investment books all have one single objective. To get YOU to live a fulfilling life.
And I’m amazed that majority of the population don’t read. Once I recommended books to some friends whom are struggling in life. Their response was, “I don’t like to read. I can’t finish the book.” Maybe that’s why they are unhappy and struggling.
I do believe that beside feeding our stomach, we have to feed the mind too. What we think, control what we do. We think happy things, we will also be happy. Books play a part to get us to be fulfilled and happy. Go to the nearest book store or visit amazon to pick up one book. With $20 you get to be happy and fulfilled, I think it’s a good deal.
6. Serve Others
The most fulfilling activity on earth is to serve another human being. Bringing smile to another person is very satisfying. I can’t describe the feeling of receiving a “thank you” from someone sincerely.
Shift your focus from satisfying your needs to the needs of others. A fulfilling life comes with making another person’s life better. This is definitely true.
7. Having The Spirit of Gratefulness
Unhappiness can be caused by focusing on the things that you don’t have. Many focus on not having enough money or car they owned is not prestige enough or the house they stayed is not big enough etc. Focusing on the lack will never provide you with happiness and fulfillment
Instead look at what you already have. Look at your bank account. No matter how little the figure is, there are millions others who don’t have that figure. You have the luxury of surfing online, which means you have a computer and internet access. There are millions in the world who don’t have computer or internet access. You are already better of than many millions others. Isn’t this something to be grateful for?
I am quite sure that you are not in poverty or starving like many millions others. Your basic needs have probably been met. Don’t you think you are better off than many? When was the last time you look at what you have and were grateful about it?
You may just want to appreciate what you have and what you have done in a daily basis. You can start with giving thanks for the food. It’s not anything religious, but to remind yourself to be grateful, to remind yourself to focus on things you already have. This set the stage for a happy and fulfilling life.
Regular exercising get your energy up. Your body feels great after exercising. You will feel confident, and highly energetic after exercise. With a good energy, confident and highly energetic, you will naturally feel happy.
This is the reason I swim at least twice every week. And I’ve not met anyone who exercise regularly said that their life is unhappy or unfulfilling.
It can be just a walk in the park. As long as your body is in motion, and the energy is flowing in your body, that should be enough.
9. Be Spontaneous
This is my belief. Life is suppose to be spontaneous. This is my belief, you do not have to agree with me. I noticed that when I suddenly do things spontaneously, I add lots of fun and positivity into my life.
In my team, there are times we take on activities spontaneously. There was once when the wireless was down in the office because of some repair work. Since we can’t work, we went hiking spontaneously. Though we were in jeans and skirts, we were enjoying that spontaneous moment. We were tired, sweaty after that, but all of us felt great with a new experience.
In fact, we are looking forward for the next spontaneous moment. What will it be? No one knows, it suppose to be spontaneous.
10. Be Yourself
It’s so easy to lose yourself in the 21st century. We were taught to sacrifice ourselves to make another person happy. We learned to say ‘yes’ even though we wanted to say ‘no’. We picked up from somewhere to obey the boss even though some instructions are ridiculous. In the process, we lost who we are.
We lost the power to express ourselves, to be who we are. We are afraid of judgements, of strange looking eyes when we fully express ourselves. We were taught to behave in a certain way since young. We lost our authenticity since then.
Be fully self express. You get the ultimate happiness when you get to fully express who you are. There was once I sang in front of a retail shop because that I just want to sing. Though I attracted strange looks, but they can choose what they like to think, it has no effect on how I live my life.
Being authentic liberates you. Guess what happen when you feel liberation? You will feel happiness from within. You don’t have to go after happiness from outside of you, because you gain happiness from within.
These are the 10 ways to have me leading a happy and fulfilling life. If they’re useful for you, practice them. Or you can leave a comment on what are you ways to happiness and fulfillment.
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