Recap on the Part 1 of the 7 Characteristics of Highly Successful People, I posted about dream. Their dreams are different from the dreams of many others. In Part 2, we are going to focus on FAILURE.
If you have never fail before, you never really live.
When you have been living on the edge, taking risk all the time; you would have failed at least in your lifetime. The point is how do you view failure. Highly successful people view failures differently.
We were trained to view failure as something negative, bad and unacceptable. In school when you fail, you’ll be put together with all the failures and be viewed differently.
From this experience, you form a belief that failure is negative, is no good. You cannot fail or else others will see you with a pair of filtered glasses. You carry this belief into adulthood, and failure becomes a taboo to you. Whatever you do, don’t fail.
“Don’t take risk so that you will not fail.” “Don’t step out so that you will not fail.” These become the guiding principle of many. For some bolder ones, their guiding principles will be, “I failed once, and that’s enough.” They won’t take another risk. They beat themselves hard for their one time failure that they are unwilling to do it again.
During my Coaching Training Program, we have to pass a practical and theory exams to graduate from the course. I didn’t pass the theory exam, so I got to retake. Interestingly, I had no emotion attached to the failure at all. I retook the exam without any stress or emotion. To me it’s just an event.
Interesting, my classmate who is a top student in school, failed the practical exam. He took it very hard, even thinking of quitting the course. Come to think of it, in his life, he has never failed. He didn’t know how to handle failure. Failure is a taboo to him.
The difference between the highly successful people is that they see failure as a stepping stone. They know that failure is inevitable if they are going for they audacious dream.
When we look at Microsoft, Apple, 7-11 or any successful brands, we thought they become successful overnight. People mentioned that they want to be the next Microsoft, Apple or Google. The question is can they handle the failure that comes along with the pursuit.
Of course, I don’t have to mention the famous story of Thomas Edison. He was the master of mastering failure. Imagine he got depressed each time he failed.
Highly successful people see failure as part of the equation. They understand that failure is necessary. While many see failure as the end, highly successful people see failure as a process to the end.
With this difference in view of failure, every failure is a step towards success. Every failure comes with a lesson.
The greatest basketball player, Michael Jordan field goal percentage is about 0.4 – 0.5. It means there is a 50% chance that he’ll miss for every shot. Another way to look at it, for every 10 shots, 5 will get into the basket. Mind you, he achieved mastery in basketball.
Based on Michael Jordan stats, and you achieving mastery; every 10 attempts, you’ll fail 5 times.
If you have not achieved mastery, every 10 attempts; you’ll fail 6, 7, 8, 9 or even 10 times. From this stat, failure becomes normal. Failure becomes necessary to have that one time success.
Practice shifting your belief. Failure is part of the success equation. Looking from this view, you will accept failure much more readily. You are more ready for success, you are more ready to take massive action.