If you are going after your big dreams, this can happen to you. Achieving your big dreams, wanting to get to the next level or wanting to serve in a bigger way; comes with twists and turns to throw you off course.
Have you ever come across an exciting opportunity that you got passionate about? And you quickly gain success thinking that this is the big break for you. But then things slowed down very quickly as well, you hit the wall, people start gossiping about you and judging. It gets rough, and you feel like fire is burning around you. The thought of giving up is creeping up on you.
Ever felt this way?
Yes, this is the test of your commitment. Since you declare that you are committed, so here you are, demonstrate it. Interestingly, if you do not declare your commitment, you wouldn’t have to face all these new challenges because you could have just walk away.
Upon your commitment, you are set up by some unforeseen forces to pass through the baptism of fire. Only by showing your 100% commitment to walk the fire, you can truly say that you make it to the other side.
Lately, I made a commitment to be an Instructor of a prominent training program from US. Just the training alone, it’ll take a huge amount of commitment. Well, it seems to me that the pressure will come from the training itself, but I was so wrong.
The real test actually came from external forces, which tested my heart and almost threw me off course.
On the day of my first presentation, my ex-wife showed up. It was fine as I thought we were cleared. But what she did almost cost my chance of presenting.
She told every person that she could get hold of her grievances, the unfairness, half truth stories and what I did to her . When I came to hear of it after my presentation, I was upset. My close friend and mentor pointed out that people were talking about it, gossips were flying around and judgements were being sentenced.
I went from empowerment to self doubt as my integrity was questioned. I felt total disempowerment from then on. I couldn’t present another piece until I got the emotion handled.
I confided to those whom I trust, asking for support, breaking down in front of them. Felt like giving up and not come back till I cleared up the outstanding shit. But these trusted friends encouraged me to keep going telling me that I can do the clearing up while under going the training. It’s all about correction without invalidation.
After allowing the emotions to settle, thinking through of what I want, what is the bigger picture, what’s my purpose, I was back to my being.
To play a bigger game, there will be critics. To break to the next level, there will be pressure. To be a leader, there will be judgements. The only way to stop all these, is to keep going. And I have declared my commitment, and I’m not backing down this time.
And those who are destined for greatness will definitely come under scrutiny. Only those who can stand in the heat can rise above the rest to be the outstanding one. This is what I told myself. I will keep going until I am kicked out of the training program.
Reflecting on the whole episode; if I didn’t make this commitment, I wouldn’t have to face this pressure. If I wasn’t committed I could have just walk away, taking the easy way out.
Because of commitment, I got to face the heat, withstand the pressure. If this is what it’s going to take to become a World Class Instructor, I will gladly take it.
Commitment comes with pressure, and pressure comes with growth. Stick to your commitment, and something good will always comes out of it. When the going gets tough, reflect with these questions.
Why Are You Doing This?
Remind yourself of the big reason of making the commitment. Always come back to this big reason. It keeps you going forward when you hit the wall, it keeps you cool when the heat is too hot to handle.
Reflecting on my reason of becoming the Instructor, it may sound selfish, it’s for personal growth. And there I was immediately confronted with issues that push my personal growth. By staying to my commitment, I can get my personal growth.
Who Are You Doing This For?
Are you doing this for a person or a group of people? Some have big dreams for their family, some do it for partners, some do it for humanity. Who do you do it for? Doing it for someone can give you the extra boost, to re-focus on your effort.
I am doing it for myself, and for the people whom I loved very much. And some of these people supported my commitment by encouraging me to push on.
How Will Keeping On Course Empower You?
The big why and who are you doing it for can become an external driving forces. Th good – it can drive you forward in a big way, the flip side – you can be overwhelm by the huge reason or get burned out by taking too much pressure.
We can be honourable in saying that we are committed for others but we have to take care of ourselves to prevent melt down. Knowing how this will benefit you take care of you spirit.
I know that if I keep going on the Instructor journey, I will discover more about myself, become stronger mentally and emotionally. It empowers me to go on despite the pressure.
Being committed will set off the pressure cooker, but do it anyway as your end goal is at the end of the pressure. Here is a passage by Johann Wolfgang von Goethe.
Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation) there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.
“All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issue from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.
Whatever you can do or dream you can begin it. Boldness has genius, magic and power in it.
Begin it now.”
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe