Year 2017 is an extremely challenging year. I’ve made many attempts to bounce back from adversity but wasn’t successful. Every attempt was met with more adversities to push me back down.
Time and again, I was on the verge of giving up. Thought of disappearing and going somewhere where no one knows me to start afresh crossed my mind several times.
Fortunately, I’ve made it. At the point of writing this post, I’m back to my productive mode. Haven’t you notice the more regular postings on this blog? I’m gradually gaining my self-confidence. I’m starting to smile and laugh at myself and my mistakes. I’m also starting to share with others about how irrational I was.
After bouncing back from this year long struggling, I believe I now got better distinctions on building yourself up. This post is about sharing my experience on getting yourself back up.
Declaration to Bounce Back
When I was thrown of train, I indulged in negativity, immersed in the sadness and was trapped in the emotional roller coaster. The only way to get out of this trap is to first declare that I want out.
Decide that I want out. Yes it’s so simple.Telling myself that I had enough, wanting to get out of this situation, wanting to stop indulging in the victim mode.
It seems simple, but it’s not easy. Negative emotion still lingers around despite making a declaraion to be back in power. I did fall back to the negative space. And then I make a declaration again. So it was back and then declare, back and then declare.
Falling back is a normal state because we have not gone past it. We have not let go of the hurt and pain. But don’t give up declaring even if you fall back again and again. Keep declaring and you will actually see yourself moving forward bit by bit.
Getting Back Your Routine
After declaring, my mind got to move to a more positive thoughts and productive activities.
One of my usual routine is exercising, something that I’ve neglected after all the emotional roller coaster. So right now I started to crawl back to my usual gym and swim routine.
It can be anything, whichever that is comfortable. It can be dancing, drawing, fishing etc.
This is a very important step as it signifies that you are in control because it takes discipline to follow through your routine.
Being able to control your routine, gradually helps you to get back control of your life. If you have not started to plan your routine, start doing it now.
Be With People Who Builds You Up
In times like this, true friends will show up. And then friends who disguise themselves as true friends will reveal themselves.
In times like this, 4 friends showed up to check in with me without any personal agenda. I’m going to keep these 4 for life.
These are the kind of friends you want to have. Those who will listen to you, support you and cheer you on without asking anything in return. They don’t support to you based on whether you are of any use to them, they just support as a friend, as a human being.
Having 2 or 3 this kind of friends who build you up is better than having a dozen party friends. Identify who are these 2 or 3 supportive friends to form a formidable friendship with them.
Here are my experience to bounce back from adversity. Do you have any of your own to share? Please do comment below.