“Thoughts become things.” You may have come across it so many times from books, blogs, videos and seminars. Some of these media discuss “thoughts become things” around the concept of law of attraction.
Nope, this is not about law of attraction. We are going to discuss “thoughts become things” from a coaching perspective.
In coaching, “thoughts become things” is real. It is proven to be true many times from coaching point of view. It’s not from “I attract or the Universe provides.”
What is a dream? A dream is a voice of your heart. Do you listen to that voice? Do you act upon hearing that voice? Do you live your dream? Or do you turn a deaf ear to that voice just like many others?
I was watching the Grand Finale of a singing competition, Voice of China. All the contestants have a dream. A dream of having the world hearing their voices, a dream of having the world recognizing their talent, a dream of not letting themselves down.
One of the judges shared his dream in the Finale.
Happiness is what most people is pursuing. They think that by earning more money they can buy happiness. Some people look for alternative to find happiness. Some volunteer their time to help the unfortunate, hoping to find happiness by making someone’s live better. Some give money hoping to find that little happiness in another person’s smile. Though many are pursuing happiness, many remain unhappy.
“I am disappointed with you.” Ever heard someone saying this to you? Or you said this to someone? This statement points outward. It is not that nice to point your finger outward. If we don’t point outward, how about pointing inward. Instead of ‘you’, it’s ‘me’.
It will sound something like this, “I’m disappointed with myself.”
How does it sound? Sounds alright.
Actually, it is not alright.
Boring? Find some fun!
You have a goal. You have a great plan. You have a strong structure. Still you are not moving forward towards your goal. What is wrong?
Externally, you acquired tools to support you. You are also being supported by resources that are easily available due to globalization. And how come you are still not moving ahead? Don’t you want to examine that gap?
Have you ever seriously examine the gap? Have you honestly look within for answers?
Overly Cautious, the right thing?
Do you tend to over analyze on your next action?
Do you think thoroughly on what you are going to say next?
Do you think so much that it takes a long time to answer a question?
Do you analyze so much that you did more explanation than to answer the question directly?
If you are having an overly cautious behaviour, do take note of it. This is a fear-based behaviour. Either you are afraid to lose something or you want to protect yourself from being hurt.
Being overly cautious seems to be the right thing to do. I like to mention here that in coaching context, there isn’t right or wrong. Because you may ask what’s wrong with protecting yourself? Question is how has protecting yourself been working for you? What are you missing by being overly cautious?
All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. Have you been working too hard? Great! We are here to contribute to the world and humanity.
On the other hand, we are also here to have fun and be adventurous.
Balance is a healthy sign to life. Going to the extreme in anything certainly is unhealthy. If you are constantly working too hard, you’ll get burn out fast. You will reach a point of detest very fast. If you are having fun too often, the contribution part of you will be neglected, confidence level will be affected.
Work hard and play hard as well. I’ve been working hard for 3 weeks without much break. Finally the much awaited break was here. Last week, we had great fun singing in karaoke with my wife and a couple of good friends.