Category Archives: Empowerment

Who Are You Disappointed With?

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“I am disappointed with you.” Ever heard someone saying this to you? Or you said this to someone? This statement points outward. It is not that nice to point your finger outward. If we don’t point outward, how about pointing inward. Instead of ‘you’, it’s ‘me’.

It will sound something like this, “I’m disappointed with myself.”

How does it sound? Sounds alright.

Actually, it is not alright.

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Overly Cautious

Being Overly Cautious Is Good?

Overly Cautious

Overly Cautious, the right thing?

Do you tend to over analyze on your next action?
Do you think thoroughly on what you are going to say next?
Do you think so much that it takes a long time to answer a question?
Do you analyze so much that you did more explanation than to answer the question directly?

If you are having an overly cautious behaviour, do take note of it. This is a fear-based behaviour. Either you are afraid to lose something or you want to protect yourself from being hurt.

Being overly cautious seems to be the right thing to do. I like to mention here that in coaching context, there isn’t right or wrong. Because you may ask what’s wrong with protecting yourself? Question is how has protecting yourself been working for you? What are you missing by being overly cautious?

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Work Hard, Play Hard

All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. Have you been working too hard? Great! We are here to contribute to the world and humanity.

On the other hand, we are also here to have fun and be adventurous.

Balance is a healthy sign to life. Going to the extreme in anything certainly is unhealthy. If you are constantly working too hard, you’ll get burn out fast. You will reach a point of detest very fast. If you are having fun too often, the contribution part of you will be neglected, confidence level will be affected.

Work hard and play hard as well. I’ve been working hard for 3 weeks without much break. Finally the much awaited break was here. Last week, we had great fun singing in karaoke with my wife and a couple of good friends.

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Success

Failure Equal Success

Success

Failure Equal Success

Failure and success, the total opposite. The law of relativity explains that there are two sides to everything. Without hot, we won’t know cold. Without cold, we won’t experience hot. And without failure, we won’t know the sweetness of success.

Anyone who pursues success will experience failures. And anyone who experience failures is not a failure. Successes and failures are like battles. Winning some battles doesn’t mean you win the war, and vice versa, losing some battles doesn’t mean you lose the war. More importantly, did you walk the whole journey with your head held high? Did you win the final victory in life?

Failures keep us humble, provide us with valuable lessons, so that our next decision and action will bring us closer to success.

At the end of last year, I created a workshop called, Life Mastery Workshop. Fill with excitement about this 1st adult workshop for public. Unfortunately, the attendance wasn’t satisfying. Two turned up for the first run. None registered for the second run, and again zero for the third run.

Nope, I wasn’t beaten yet. Learned from the failure, I created another workshop called Money Coaching Workshop four months later. This time filled with optimism as I’ve already learned from my past failure, this workshop should work.

No, it didn’t. Zero signed up for the workshop. And we had the help of a database company, yet the result was horrible. While I was still digesting from the failure, not nice things started to happen.

Betrayal from a good friend. A business partner left the company leaving me to clear the mess. An apprentice performed a disappearing act.

I wasn’t discouraged at all. In fact all these spurred me on. Unwilling to take all these as failures, I gathered whatever resources that was left, gathered whatever learnings I got to reorganize.

At this time, the Universe blessed me with a strange opportunity, plus the help of some good friends and a database company, I launched the Procrastination Buster Workshop. Five signed up for the first run. I thought maybe this could work.

Test it again with a 2nd run which is on 22 Sep 2012. So far, 10 signed up. I may have discovered something here. Now I can claim that Procrastination Buster Workshop is the first of its kind workshop.

When I was exploring new avenues to increase sign up rate, I chance upon another workshop again. So far, 160 signed up for this new workshop.

All I want to say is failure is not failure. You can decide that failure is just a process to bring you closer to success. And success may not be forever. Winning a battle doesn’t mean you win a war. Continue to walk on this journey, taking failure as learning, experience success but be humble. With that you can win the war of life.

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A Chain Monster From Within

Ever been stopped by your own imagination? Your imagination is so powerful that it can create a huge monster to hold you from getting the things that you want in life. This monster is good at confusing you. Resulting in you losing the ability to differentiate between illusion and reality.

The name of this monster is Chain Monster. It holds a chain on its right hand, sniffing around for spaces that is manifesting its presence. The moment it sees an opportunity to be manifested, fed and grow, it will throw his chain around you, leeching for as long as it can.

Are you creating the Chain Monster in your life? Are you being chain down by your own imagination?

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Hello, Did You Lose Your Confidence?

Why do I post something about losing your confidence? Because confidence is important to success, but many feel the opposite. Many feel that when you achieve success then you will have confidence. It is actually when you have confidence then you will have success.

So why would a money seminar sells much better than a confidence seminar?

Maybe because not many will admit they lack confidence, but many will say not enough money. You can do this test by asking friends, “do you have money to lend me?”

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Laugh At Life

Laughing is the best medicine in life. Do you laugh at life? Have you seen people who don’t laugh? I have! In some trainings that I did, sometimes there were one or two people who would never laugh at my joke. Some people just take life too serious.

What is causing you to tense up? What get you to frown all the time? What have you to be serious on very little thing in life?

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