Somewhere stated that most people would rather die than to do public speaking. Thus, public speaking is deemed as the greatest fear that any human could possibly face.
Well, I don’t agree with this entirely. Whoever said this is not looking deep enough.
Public speaking is not the fear itself, it is the activity the draws out the real fear in you – the fear of being judged.
Imagine speaking in front of 50 people means 50 pairs of eyes ready to judge you at any point in time. This is the real fear in people, the real fear in you and me. Yes, I am afraid of being judged too.
Do I dread public speaking? You bet. Just that I’ve overcome it. But judgments come in many forms, hit you in many ways. Overcoming public speaking, doesn’t mean I overcome other forms of judgments. Anything that puts you or your work in public is exposed to judgments.
I have been learning singing for 3 months. I have performed in front of small groups 2 months back. Here is the post about the performance. This week, my Singing Coach took another video of me of a song I have been practicing for awhile.
I am reluctant to post this practice video up because it wasn’t that good, losing control of my voice at so many places. Putting this video up means I am open to many possible judgments.
But I always tell my clients that it doesn’t have to be perfect, who is to judge? So I guess I got to walk the talk. So here is the imperfect video so that I move one step closer to liberation from judgment.
Feel free to comment. I am not afraid of being judged, I can take it.
My life really got started in the year of 2003. Before that, I was just bumping around, living life as if life happened to me. But since 2003, I live life exactly the way I want it. That is the year that I discover what I would love to do for a living. That is the year that I found my purpose in life.
And on this journey of purpose, failures arise over and over again. But each time, I managed to get back up. Some friends asked what kept me motivated to bounce back from so many failures. And here are my response.
Before I get into the details, I discover five fuel points to kept me going. I called it fuel points because they are the points that supply me the energy and drive to move forward despite all odds.
Recently, this lady being labeled as the ugliest woman in the world, Lizzie Velasquez showed up on my Facebook wall due to the sharing of many friends. As a curious netizen, my curiosity got the better of me. I need to take a look at this lady, I need to know why are people labeling her as the ugliest woman. And to my horror…
I know I’ve posted this video before, but re-watching it provides me with new energy and distinction. The last time I posted about this video, it is about pursuing your dreams.
Watching it again during New Year Day provides me with new perspective.
Watching it this time, I got the word BELIEF.
Liverpool was 3-0 down at half-time. The game is effectively over as AC Milan is the strongest team that year. Everyone felt that it’s game over. It might even be a thrashing by Milan.
But Liverpool turned the table around. When everyone said it was impossible, when everyone lost faith in them, Liverpool demonstrated to us what BELIEF can do.
They are the underdogs, few notches below AC Milan. They showed the world what miracle is. When passion, heart and belief come together, you have a chance to produce miracle.
I know for sure the next time when I feel like quitting, I will watch this video.
We are half way through this series, if you have not read the previous version, here you can start from Part 1, or you can read Part 4 here. It doesn’t matter which Part you start reading from, as long as you are getting value from it.
The subject of the Part 5 of this series is STRENGTH and probably the most difficult to achieve in the whole series.
How come this could be the most difficult to achieve?
Let’s do a test. Continue reading
Recap on the Part 1 of the 7 Characteristics of Highly Successful People, I posted about dream. Their dreams are different from the dreams of many others. In Part 2, we are going to focus on FAILURE.
If you have never fail before, you never really live.
When you have been living on the edge, taking risk all the time; you would have failed at least in your lifetime. The point is how do you view failure. Highly successful people view failures differently.
Starting a business is called the road less travelled. Entrepreneurship is not for the faint hearted. I am absolutely not the faint hearted. Thinking that it was not difficult enough, I raise the intensity of the challenge. I started my business in 2003 with only one month of reserves, no cashflow and a car loan.
Challenging, isn’t it?