I totally understand the effects of low self esteem and how a person with low self esteem feels. Because I was someone with low self esteem. Over the years, I build my self esteem through various methods, which I’m going to share with you in this 7 part series.
“There is not enough time.” Have you heard this before? Have you said it before? What are the tips to effective time management? In my view, you can never manage time effectively. So what can you do about time?
When we look from a macro point of view, there is abundance of time. Since we have abundance of it, how come we are always face with not enough time?
Spain National Football Team made history in Euro 2012. They are the first team in history to have won three consecutive major football competition. Euro 2008, World Cup 2010 and Euro 2012. No other country has done this before. Well done, Spain.
I started supporting the Spaniards since Euro 2008 before they were crowned the European Champion. I simply love their way of football. They must be doing something right to achieve this phenomenal result.
What did they do that the rest of the country did not do?
I discover something interesting regarding achieving success. Are you avoiding the truth to achieve success?
What do you say to yourself when you are not achieving success? What do you say to others when you are not achieving success?
Are you those who say everything is working out great? Are you those who say you have some new plans in place? Are you those who say feeling great even though you don’t?
Avoiding the brutal facts causes a disillusion that everything is fine and working well but in actual fact it is not. Denying the brutal truth gets you to be complacent, unwilling to innovate, evolve or get support. Usually this is the downfall of anyone, any business or any country.
Recognizing the brutal truth in your life gets you to improve, innovate and grow. Understanding your truth gets you to work on your strength and look for alternative ways to complement your weakness.
Do a review of yourself now. What is your brutal truth?
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Do you have a problem? A problem of opportunity. Either too much or lack of opportunities can create some challenges for you. Too much opportunities create challenges of choosing the right one. Lack of opportunity causes the challenges of nothing to choose from, hence choosing whichever that come.
I’m assuming that you would like to attract as many opportunities as you can. Comparing the challenge of too many opportunities and lack of opportunities, I prefer to have the challenge of having too many opportunity. To be more specific, many “right” opportunities.
Having many “right” opportunities doesn’t take away the headache of choosing. It does takes away the problem of choosing the “wrong” one. The benefit of many “right” opportunities is that mostly they will suit you.
How do you attract the right opportunities? How do you attract the right people presenting you the right offer?
The past two months hasn’t really been fulfilling in term of results. I didn’t achieve the results that were set. I am getting frustrated and impatience with the inability to achieve my target. Though there were nice things that happened, it wasn’t happening fast enough.
The newly created workshop, Life Mastery was cancelled because of no enrollment. Though I didn’t beat myself up on this, it was something that I set but didn’t achieve.
When was the last time you took care of yourself? Are you beating yourself up when things don’t go the way you like?
I beat myself up badly when I didn’t get my desired results. I had expectations of how things should turn out. These expectations suffocated me and my life. They restrained me from achieving success in my life. I didn’t know that while I was beating myself up, I was actually creating a self sabotaging cycle at the same time. How’s that so?
To make myself feel good when things didn’t turn out as expected, I invalidated ME. I felt bad initially, and after invalidating ME, I gained the drive to do it better next time. It made me felt good and motivated. Thus, it became a strategy to feel good, strong and motivated. I like others to perceive me as strong, persistent and highly motivated. I like other to see me as a fighter in the face of failure.
And well, that’s precisely what I got.
Beating myself becomes a strategy to feel strong and motivated. And I need reasons to beat myself. What will be a better way than sabotaging my success?
This became an automatic behaviour eventually. Whenever I’m about to achieve success, I crashed my own success. When I make a come back, other will see me as a fighter who is strong and driven.
This is an awakening! I have to re-invent my context on the journey to success or else I going crash my success again. I have to re-invent ME.
Today, I learn to take care of ME and my well being in any situation. Successes, failures, mistakes are a part of that journey. I expect them to show up, and when they do, I celebrate. When I made a mistake, I celebrate. When I don’t get the expected results, I dance and sing.
I am still working on the showing compassion to myself. There is progress to the work. But I know I am more forgiving than the past. I see mistakes and breakdowns in a different view now.
Last week I made some mistakes in business. On top of that, last week I didn’t manage to convert a prospect into a client. You know what! I bought ice cream for myself to celebrate! And I had the whole tub to myself because my wife was not around.
Come to think of that, my wife is not around – it’s celebration time again!