When I Wait For Things To Happen

Once upon a time, in a faraway land. Does it sound like a fairy tale? No, I’m not going to tell a fairy tale. But I’m going to tell a story that happened years ago.

After serving my National Service in Dec 1999, I was offered a job in a non-profit organization. Without second thought, I happily took it up. I felt great to get a job since I didn’t have to worry about the future anymore with a job.

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How Do You Build Self Esteem – Part 7/7

How’s your progress so far? In Part 6 of How Do You Build Self Esteem, you were invited to track your progress. Has it been working for you? If you really have a tough time following, you may like to get some support from me.

This is the last part of this series. We’ve gone through the internal work of building self esteem, then the external work of setting up goals, having plans and creating self-discipline. After putting in effort to build your self esteem, we are moving into a new and last area. Building your self esteem through taking care of your well being.

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How Do You Build Self Esteem – Part 6/7

In part 5 of this series, we discussed about you setting up some goals. Have you set up your goals? If you need any support in setting goals, read here.

The challenge after setting goals is to follow up on an action plan. The difficult part is to act on your goals. If it’s easy, many would have achieved their goals. Building self esteem involves determination, hard work and short-term discomfort. There is no magic wand or magic pill, just pure grit.

To build self esteem is like playing lego, putting the pieces together to form your creative work. Your self esteem is built upon fitting the smaller pieces together, eventually forming the confident you.
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The Day I Had Closure With Two Enemies

Do you have “friends” whom you refuse to speak to them? From your perspective, these “friends” did some terrible things to you. You were no longer friends with them since then.

I had friends who did some terrible things to hurt me in the past. I couldn’t forgive them even though it was the right thing to do, I just couldn’t do it. My hair behind my neck would stand upon hearing their names. The anger would start boiling in me when someone mentioned their names. Continue reading