Help! I’m A Perfectionist

I am never a perfectionist, but I met many perfectionist. Some of them my clients, some of them are participants of Procrastination Buster Workshop. One of the reasons of procrastination is perfectionism.

Perfectionist tends to be highly analytical and meticulous. This nature prevents them to take any form of action that can move them forward in life. They do not believe in possibilities, they believe in certainty. They won’t act until things are perfect in their eyes.

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Encouraging Emails From Participants of Public Presentation Mastery

This month is a slightly busier month. I am either conducting or supporting programs on every weekends. Last weekend, together with the team consists of Douglas Ng, Vincent Tan, Jayson Yap, Serena Liew and Subrina Ng, we conducted our sole-proprietor program, Public Presentation Mastery.

I said it before and I like to say it again. This is not your typical public speaking course. Many of the participants mentioned it as well, “a very different public presentation course”. You don’t just learn presentation skills, you learn presenting with a soul.

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Organize My Messy Life

If you study the life of successful people in the world, their life consists of 80% routine and 20% spontaneous. This doesn’t apply to only the wealthy businessman, but to the famous artists, scientists, celebrities, singers, athletics etc. They live in an organized and structured life.

Artists or singers may seem to lack a structured or routine life, because they don’t have a 9-5 job. Now that’s not entirely true. The successful ones create structures in their life. They live in an organized and structured manner which enable them reach their dreams.

I started business thinking that I can have time freedom. Bad mindset.

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I’m Lost. How Do I Find My Passion?

“What do you want in life?” A question that I always asked my clients. The response was usually, “I don’t know. How do I find my passion?”

This is such an important question to life, but many don’t have an answer. Knowing your passion opens the door to a passionate life. Knowing your passion guide you on any future decisions you are making. Knowing your passion provides you more energy to life.

It’s such a painful feeling of not knowing your passion, isn’t it? Don’t you feel lost not knowing what do you want in life? Every week, I hear “I don’t know” from people whom I cared for. Every week I feel this same pain and lost from people who is searching for a way out.

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Why Are You Not Achieving Success

If you are not achieving success in your life, you really should slap yourself hard. This is not an inspirational post. This is not a post with kind words. This is not a coaching post.

This is a post with hard truth accompanied by compassion. Not only compassion can be demonstrated through the soft side of human being, compassion can be expressed from the hard naked truth of human being. I was taught to exercise compassion from soft side, but once in a while, the sound of a wake up call has to be struck.

A mother disciplining her child. Is she full of compassion? Most likely. Heard the saying? “Spare the cane, spoilt the child.”

This post exercise the cane treatment to slap you with the hard truth. If you are not achieving success, you really should take a hard look at yourself. Are you generating tons of excuses to get away? Do you lack serious commitment to get things done? Are you losing focus as fast as the players at the slot machines?

There is no one to blame, nothing to blame except yourself. Your excuses had you accept mediocrity. Your lack of serious commitment had you stay in comfort zone. You accept that you are not getting success. You console yourself, telling yourself it’s alright not to have it, accept what is given. How will you achieve anything by accepting a lower standard?

How come this is such a harsh post?

After watching a short video about a blind artist who defies all odds to produce beautiful art pieces, I don’t see anyone not succeeding in their own life. Anyone can succeed. Anyone who watches the video and still blames circumstances, environment and people odd to be shot. That passion and resilient is something we can learn.

The only thing that stands between you and success is yourself. Don’t ever create another excuse for yourself, or blame something else because nothing can stop you when you possess that serious commitment to make something work.

Look at your life right now. Where have you allow yourself to slide? Be honest, where are the areas you need support? Ignite that passion again, and crush any obstacles to create a success path. Don’t ever give up on your dream.

Share this if you have been woken up.

While I was tired

Honestly, I was tired for the past two months because business result hasn’t been blossoming. Enrollment for Public Presentation Mastery got stagnant in the new year. Losing a five-figure corporate deal didn’t make me feel any better.

So I asked, how much longer can I hang on to this alone?

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More Than 10,000 Hours In Outliers

One of the important books of my life is Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell. The main gist about this book is 10,000 hours.

Based on the book, successful people invested 10,000 hours of practice to be where they are. He provides examples of Bill Gates and Beatles who invested many hours of practice on programming and music respectively in their youth. The many hours of practice moved them to the rank of Outliers.

So is it a guarantee that clocking 10,000 hours equate to success? Are there some who invested 10,000 hours and never really got in front?

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