I Am Afraid of Being Judged Too

Somewhere stated that most people would rather die than to do public speaking. Thus, public speaking is deemed as the greatest fear that any human could possibly face.

Well, I don’t agree with this entirely. Whoever said this is not looking deep enough.

Public speaking is not the fear itself, it is the activity the draws out the real fear in you – the fear of being judged.

Imagine speaking in front of 50 people means 50 pairs of eyes ready to judge you at any point in time. This is the real fear in people, the real fear in you and me. Yes, I am afraid of being judged too.

Do I dread public speaking? You bet. Just that I’ve overcome it. But judgments come in many forms, hit you in many ways. Overcoming public speaking, doesn’t mean I overcome other forms of judgments. Anything that puts you or your work in public is exposed to judgments.

I have been learning singing for 3 months. I have performed in front of small groups 2 months back. Here is the post about the performance. This week, my Singing Coach took another video of me of a song I have been practicing for awhile.

I am reluctant to post this practice video up because it wasn’t that good, losing control of my voice at so many places. Putting this video up means I am open to many possible judgments.

But I always tell my clients that it doesn’t have to be perfect, who is to judge? So I guess I got to walk the talk. So here is the imperfect video so that I move one step closer to liberation from judgment.

Feel free to comment. I am not afraid of being judged, I can take it.

Resolve Conflicts Arises From Different Expectation

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Conflict usually arises when we are working with the people who are close to us. We will have conflicts with our spouse, parents, siblings, colleagues, bosses, business partners etc. These are the people whom we met almost daily, thus the chances of having conflict with one another is extremely high.

After coaching for more than three years, looking at about 150 cases of conflict between people, I derived that Continue reading

20 Seconds of Courage To Live Your Life

we bought a zooMovies trigger my thoughts. I always felt that some lines that were said in the movies have a deeper meaning. Only by slowing down to digest, I get to fully understand what these movies want to convey.

Matrix by Keanu Reeve, convey a message about our world in a very obscured manner. Most watched Matrix for its action and special effect, but I see it as a philosophy movie. I was fascinated by the underlying message that I had to immerse myself 5 times into the movie.

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Get Out of The Misery Trap and Live Happily Ever After?

Through my observation of all my clients, friends and family, I found out you got to possess an important condition to live happily ever after. One very important person whom I observed is my mum. My mum is in a peaceful and happy state right now. I learned some great lessons about happiness by observing some of her interesting encounters.
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My 5 Ways to Maintain Daily Motivation

A client asked how do I maintain daily motivation. Don’t I feel tired about life? Don’t I feel sick about life? Don’t I feel that life is meaningless?

I understand the context of his questions because I observe people on the street. I talk to people from all woks of life. Some are really just surviving. When I say surviving, I don’t mean that they are struggling financially. Surviving in this context means that they do not have a purpose, they don’t find meaning in life, they don’t understand why they go to office daily. They are absolutely not motivated to approach their work and even their life.

How do I keep my energy up? How do I maintain my motivation?
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You Won’t Believe That It is So Simple to Achieve Peak Performance

peak performanceFor almost 10 years, I have been looking at the human ability to achieve peak performance. I went on to study people who achieve miracles, and those who did not. I experimented theories on myself, also consolidated my findings from my coaching clients; I came up with three conclusions that affect human performance.

With these three conclusions, you can achieve peak performance on your own too. You don’t have to be stuck in mediocre. You can achieve peak performance whenever you like it. You are in charge of your performance.

Below are my recent accounts of my experiences regarding peak performance. Continue reading

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How Did I Bounce Back From Failures Over and Over Again in the Last 3 Years

My life really got started in the year of 2003. Before that, I was just bumping around, living life as if life happened to me. But since 2003, I live life exactly the way I want it. That is the year that I discover what I would love to do for a living. That is the year that I found my purpose in life.

And on this journey of purpose, failures arise over and over again. But each time, I managed to get back up. Some friends asked what kept me motivated to bounce back from so many failures. And here are my response.

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Before I get into the details, I discover five fuel points to kept me going. I called it fuel points because they are the points that supply me the energy and drive to move forward despite all odds.
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