Just met a client who is so worried about her next phase in life. She stands at the crossroad, not knowing which direction to proceed. She is unsure of where the different paths will lead to, as it seems every path carries a risk of uncertainty. The struggle of not being able to make a decision, and get on with life is so frustrating and draining to her.
I believe that many of us faced this similar situation in our life too. I’m sure you know that the crossroad is a very unsettled place to be in. You wish to get out of there as fast as you can Continue reading
Two friends brought up this statement to me in the past three months. “Why Do Bad Things Always Happen To Me?”Do you understand the impact of this statement? This means they are struggling in life, and everything is not working in their life.
Waves of challenges hit them over and over again. They call these challenges -problems or bad things. In their opinion, they do not experience high’s and low’s in life like everyone else does. They experience low’s and lower’s.
Somewhere stated that most people would rather die than to do public speaking. Thus, public speaking is deemed as the greatest fear that any human could possibly face.
Well, I don’t agree with this entirely. Whoever said this is not looking deep enough.
Public speaking is not the fear itself, it is the activity the draws out the real fear in you – the fear of being judged.
Imagine speaking in front of 50 people means 50 pairs of eyes ready to judge you at any point in time. This is the real fear in people, the real fear in you and me. Yes, I am afraid of being judged too.
Do I dread public speaking? You bet. Just that I’ve overcome it. But judgments come in many forms, hit you in many ways. Overcoming public speaking, doesn’t mean I overcome other forms of judgments. Anything that puts you or your work in public is exposed to judgments.
I have been learning singing for 3 months. I have performed in front of small groups 2 months back. Here is the post about the performance. This week, my Singing Coach took another video of me of a song I have been practicing for awhile.
I am reluctant to post this practice video up because it wasn’t that good, losing control of my voice at so many places. Putting this video up means I am open to many possible judgments.
But I always tell my clients that it doesn’t have to be perfect, who is to judge? So I guess I got to walk the talk. So here is the imperfect video so that I move one step closer to liberation from judgment.
Feel free to comment. I am not afraid of being judged, I can take it.
Conflict usually arises when we are working with the people who are close to us. We will have conflicts with our spouse, parents, siblings, colleagues, bosses, business partners etc. These are the people whom we met almost daily, thus the chances of having conflict with one another is extremely high.
After coaching for more than three years, looking at about 150 cases of conflict between people, I derived that Continue reading
Movies trigger my thoughts. I always felt that some lines that were said in the movies have a deeper meaning. Only by slowing down to digest, I get to fully understand what these movies want to convey.
Matrix by Keanu Reeve, convey a message about our world in a very obscured manner. Most watched Matrix for its action and special effect, but I see it as a philosophy movie. I was fascinated by the underlying message that I had to immerse myself 5 times into the movie.
Last night, Continue reading
Through my observation of all my clients, friends and family, I found out you got to possess an important condition to live happily ever after. One very important person whom I observed is my mum. My mum is in a peaceful and happy state right now. I learned some great lessons about happiness by observing some of her interesting encounters.
A client asked how do I maintain daily motivation. Don’t I feel tired about life? Don’t I feel sick about life? Don’t I feel that life is meaningless?
I understand the context of his questions because I observe people on the street. I talk to people from all woks of life. Some are really just surviving. When I say surviving, I don’t mean that they are struggling financially. Surviving in this context means that they do not have a purpose, they don’t find meaning in life, they don’t understand why they go to office daily. They are absolutely not motivated to approach their work and even their life.
How do I keep my energy up? How do I maintain my motivation?